— LOVE IS INCOMPARABLE —
Love is love is love...even if yours looks different
You may have noticed how our culture has bombarded us with millions of messages about what “real love” looks like. While these images may be realistic for some, they often exploit our most sacred emotion with unrealistic representations manufactured for maximum likes and views. Feeds are overflowing with photographs of super steamy make-out sessions (in the kitchen, on a beach, and everywhere in between) and close ups of hair blowing in the wind while tears are being gently stroked off a cheek. If this is how you see you and your loved one, that’s beautiful, but we know and you know, that there is more to love than these idolized representations.
You have loved each other long before your wedding day, and you will continue to love each other long after it. Who are we to tell you how to show it?
There is no preconceived notion of love that is true; all we know to be real is what we see in front of us, and there is no expression we’ve seen that is better than others.
You are free to express your love exactly how you do. Our job is to capture it, not force it into an image of how we love or how those people on Instagram love—all kinds of love are welcome and worthy.
After photographing more than 500 wedding couples from various cultures, sizes, genders, religions, ages, and socio-economic classes, we know the funny thing about love is that it looks completely different every time we encounter it. One week it’s tender and sweet, the next it’s affectionate and quirky. There are infinite ways people love and express it—that’s part of the thrill of this job. No two humans show their love the same way and every time we encounter it, we’re surprised to see how it all unfolds.
If you are a couple that holds hands, strokes faces, or grabs butts, that’s great. You should keep doing those things. But we also recognize that you are more than that, your love is deeper than that, and we won’t let your outward physical affection diminish the rest of your expressions.
Only you know how you’ve been holding hands since your second date and you have permission to do so, without worrying about how it is affecting the photo we’re taking.
If you are a couple that does not show much physical affection, that is 100% okay. That does not make your love less real or worthy.
Our job is to see the ways in which you do express your love to each other and capture it, no matter the subtleties. Love is in the in-between glances, the laughter, and the quiet moments of conversation just as much as it is in the more obvious or outward expressions. Sure it can be harder to see, but we’ve made a career of noticing these moments and value your unique representation of this complex emotion.
So if you want to hold hands or thumb war or make out (PG 13) or drink whiskey and talk or just sit next to each other, it is all equally worthy of your time and our photographic attention.
How you define and express love is completely up to you. However you convey what love is, we are here for it, looking for it, and honored to show you what we see.
Your love is real and alive and it never ceases to amaze us how lucky we are to stand in the midst of it. With this in mind, we will take photographs that you can recognize yourselves in, free of manipulation or coercion, and capture that moments that help you remember what it means to love and be loved.